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Why do men cheat and have extramarital sexual affairs?
Hello Ladies,
Have you ever wondered why married men cheat and seek extramarital sexual affairs?
Men like your husband…Like my awesome soldier.
How would you feel if you find out by accident that your loving husband jumped into a lady’s skirt or do I say bed?
You would wonder, why he would ever “decide” to do that to you, Right???
When men commit adultery, their partners feel so betrayed and wonder why they would ever “decide” to do that.
SO my dear, have you been wondering why your husband who loved you cheated?
Hmmm…Well…You’re about to find out.
Men probably already know all the reasons therefore, I asked some of my male friends ( civilians and military) and you’ll be totally, totally shocked at their response.
BELOW ARE SOME OF THE ANSWERS I GOT
ENGINEER EMEKA
Historical background can influence men to cheat. I think a man who grew up in a polygamous family will not see anything wrong with having extramarital affairs. Some men even make reference to King Solomon who was notorious for his many wives and countless concubines yet he was the wisest king that ever lived.
ANONYMOUS
My wife feels lovemaking is a chore. This has pushed me to look for other women who can satisfy me and that’s why I cheat.
CHARLES
Women are naturally beautiful thus men find them irresistible. Inability to control one’s sexual urge is a contributing factor to cheating in relationships.
ANONYMOUS
I dislike women who nag! I try to avoid them like plague. The only reason I cheated on my wife is that she nags and she doesn’t know that once she starts shouting and yelling, I hear her but don’t listen to her.
BARR. BOLA
Haha Haha…I don’t see any reason why men or women should cheat on each other. I think people who engage in such, do it for personal reasons. For instance, I have seen a rich man’s wife who cheats with their gateman and also men who cheat with their housemaids. But, I really don’t think there’s any legal reason for men to cheat in relationships.
HAMZA
Because some men don’t cherish what they have at home. They are not contented so they become womanizers.
DOCTOR KEN
Some women make living so difficult for their husbands that they prefer to find succor elsewhere. The attitude and character of one’s partner matter a lot in every relationship.
SUNNY
Well, the three main contributing factors are;
- Pornography – I believe pornography is dangerous to marriages and has clearly been demonstrated to be a “gateway” for men to be promiscuous. Oftentimes, men see “sex styles” that they would love to explore but aren’t comfortable trying it with their wives. This makes such men run after ladies outside to have a feel of it. Just like when we were kids that we would keep our bicycles and hire bicycles that we would ride in the mud.
- Absence due to distance between spouses– Absence allows a spouse to have an affair with little risk of being caught. Soldiers and businessmen who travel a lot are mostly the ones in this infidelity class.
- Aging– This is also a common reason why men cheat on their spouses. Men love to have affairs with younger ladies, sometimes their daughter’s age-mates. They claim they need to taste younger blood to look younger which I don’t think has been proven anywhere.
AYUBA
There’s this negative saying that says, “Men are polygamous in nature “. Some negative persons use that negative saying as their justification to cheat on their partners.
Again, a lot of men seek pleasure from other ladies because their partners no longer take care of their bodies and appearance. Some men also cheat as a result of influence from the people they hang around with, the environment they live in, or hang around.
Lastly, most ladies don’t satisfy their partners sexually and so such partners tend to explore other options. They go after other ladies to gain sexual satisfaction.
FRANCIS
Men cheat when they don’t have the fear of God in them. Most men cheat for several reasons in relationships. For instance;
- Men cheat when their spouse is not respectful.
- The majority of men who cheat do so because they lack love from their spouses.
- A good number of men cheat because their spouses nag and fight them all the time.
- Some men cheat because their spouses don’t take good care of their bodies anymore. As I said, there are several reasons but I have to stop here for now.
OLU
Some men cheat because they want to have a taste of other foods. According to such men, “Variety is the spice of life”. Thus, they make it a point of duty to taste different shapes of women.
JAY
Well, men who cheat on their partners may have their reasons but I really don’t think there’s anything, anyone can use to justify cheating on his or her partner.
Hello, again Ladies,
We’ve all read their comments, is there any point mentioned by the men that you can relate with? As for me, there’s no justification for both or either spouses to engage in extramarital affairs.
If there’s an issue, couples should work as a team to resolve it. That’s just my take on this matter because cheating leads to unhealthy relationships and broken homes.
What are your views and opinions on this matter?
Please, feel free to comment and let me also know if you would love to hear the reasons why married women engage in extramarital sexual affairs.
Thank you so much for stopping by.
You’ve said it all…..
Thanks for taking the time to read it. I believe every marriage can be better!
This is nice but like you said “there is no justification for cheating on your spouse
Thank you. You’re really right on that!
There are different reasons as to why men cheat on their spouse, why cheat even after exchanging marital vows? I suggest that every man should go for what he wants and admires in a woman, what attracted you to her during courtship should be able to keep you in marriage. I see no reason for cheating, it’s betrayal of true Love. My opinion though.
You’re absolutely right! Thank you for your comments.
Above are various reasons why husbands and wives cheat on one another. Mostly we find this common amongst men. From my own perspective,,.. To the guys now.. Once u notice that u longer enjoy sex wth your wife as supposed, as a God fearing man,, I think its only proper to sit her down and let her realise things are changing incase she doesn’t notice it. And d two should figure out how their sex life could work and be revived again. Instead of thinking getting it outside Is the best.. Any reasonable woman would in the first place appreciate the fact that her husband brought such issue to her notice.. And if reasonable enough she should b able to spice it all up to safe her marriage….. I dnt think most of our husbands today do this.. Once they are feed up they go straight out which is so not proper.. For whatever reason and incase she is too serious to have notice and bring herself to order.. I think our men should try helping wth respect to bringing their wives to order bfre messing up outside.
And it goes vise versa to the ladies too..
Being faithful in relationship or marriage is simply “the fear of God and your personal decision “.
You are absolutely right! Thank you for your comments and for taking the time to read.Hugs!
I think I will say wrong company leads most men to that act.
But most of the old stories written there are correct
I believe that a God fearing man will not do it.
I salute all military wife’s
Absolutely, no God fearing man would do it.
I appreciate your comment and on behalf of all military wives, I say thank you.
Of a truth there’s no moral justification in having extra marital affairs under any guise.
Well said Gerald. Thank you for stopping by!
Well, u don’t have to blame some men why such act happens.. Distance is always a factor.. It affect mostly military officers who have been away from their spouses for a very long time.. But looking at it biblically, they said marriage is for better for worse.. you both have actually exchanged marital vows. You have to abstain from things that will lead u apart. My last advise is to actually avoid being too far from your spouse..
I get your point but I wish to also add that that self discipline will help in such situations. I really appreciate you being here.
“Fear of God” and “personal decision”..
Everyone shared why and why men cheat and vise versa… But have we ever considered bringing ourselves to order??
Okk your wife gets boring along the line and you next decide to get it outside.. Husbands, have u guys ever considered bringing ur wives to order??.. Have u ever sat her down and let her know that u no longer enjoy her bkos she nags,She’s untidy, too busy, uncivilized etc?.. Have u ever sat them down to let them know things are changing and getting really bad and out of hands??.. I bet u any reasonable woman will so appreciate a man who will summon courage to do that.. And if she’s more reasonable, she will by all means in order to save her marriage bring solution and find means of spicing up her marriage.. If only the love is there though … If our husbands can’t do this and go directly outside to get what they think they want and complain that they had to do it kos their wives are now slacken will only mean wickedness.. Have u tried let her know and see her do nothing about it??.. Then the fault and blame won’t be on you… We can help discover ourselves better than having regrets afterwards..
And to the wives.. It goes vise versa. Like I said if on both sides there exist the fear of God.. I think cheating wouldn’t in d first place be an option… And if on my part I decide that no matter how I’ve been made upset by my partner… If I’ve made the decision to love and never to cheat then what would make me cheat has not been created on this earth..
FEAR OF GOD and PERSONAL DECISION
This 2 alone is enough to think of and stay clear cheating.
You’re right!. I wish couples in troubled relationships can be open to each other and work as a team to resolve their differences so they can be happier.
One of The things I discovered between two individuals, is not that Love is not Binding, But Interest is Key, In any Relationship to work, and couples be loyal to one another.
We Must look at the Problem and every solution is in the problem.
When it comes to Marriage, we Must Sex is not The only way Men or women Cheat their Spouses, Sometimes, the Problem is leadership issue as a man, in Your home, You are suppose to bring direction and Correction anytime, so when all of This is not in place, Men loose interest, Extra Marital Affairs is tag as irresponsibility,
Sometimes The Movies, Books, Friends, Religion, Background, Forms our creative ability and how we think and Act.
Most Powerfully We should look at This our Spouse, we the eyes of the Honour, that Cheating is dishonouring and breaking The Love That Both Lovers share.
Knowledge is power, but Truth is what set Free be truthful to oneself, is the first limiting agent to extra marital Affair.
In my own way I saw it as immaturity, If he does not have a lot of experience in committed relationships, or if he doesn’t fully understand that his actions will inevitably have consequences like hurting his partner, he may think it is fine to have sexual adventures. He might think of his commitment to monogamy as a jacket that he can put on or take off as he pleases, depending on the circumstances. And secondly let me just say it’s a devilish act because in God side it’s a great sin.
Absolutely! Well said!
Thank you for you for being here.
One of The things I discovered between two individuals, is not that Love is not Binding, But Interest is Key, In any Relationship to work, and couples be loyal to one another.
We Must look at the Problem and every solution is in the problem.
When it comes to Marriage, we Must Sex is not The only way Men or women Cheat their Spouses, Sometimes, the Problem is leadership issue as a man, in Your home, You are suppose to bring direction and Correction anytime, so when all of This is not in place, Men loose interest, Extra Marital Affairs is tag as irresponsibility,
Sometimes The Movies, Books, Friends, Religion, Background, Forms our creative ability and how we think and Act.
Most Powerfully We should look at our Spouse, with the eyes of the Honour, that Cheating is dishonouring and breaking The Love That Both Lovers share.
Knowledge is power, but Truth is what set Free be truthful to oneself, is the first limiting agent to extra marital Affair.
That’s true.I also believe cheating means dishonouring and breaking the love that lovers share. Thank you for your contribution.
Co-occurring Issues: He may have an ongoing problem with alcohol and, or, drugs that affect his decision-making, resulting in regrettable sexual decisions. Or maybe he has a problem like sexual addiction, meaning he compulsively engages in sexual fantasies and behaviors as a way to numb out and avoid life. Hmmmmmm, is only God that will deliver us from this disaster.
Exactly, but it’s best to abstain from all forms of infidelity!
That’s so fantastic and knowledgeable content, well done Ma👍
Thank you so much. I’m glad you liked it.
These scenarios are some of the reasons why there are extramarital affairs amongst couples
1.Sex addiction
Certainly, sex addiction in one partner increases the chance that they will be unsatisfied with the physical aspect of their marriage and the man will look elsewhere for satisfaction.
2. Incompatibility
Some people married for the wrong reasons. Incompatibility can lead to a sense of “buyer’s remorse”
3. Financial pressures
So many that married because of riches always cheat when the money is no longer available.
4. Marriage base on sympathy
Many people cheat when one party married another out of sympathy and not because of love.
5. Lack of respect
When a woman who suppose to be an ideal wife begins to insult her husband the home will no longer be accommodative for him and this will trigger him to look for a conductive place to be.
6. Exposure of infidelity in childhood
As a married man who always brings women in his matrimonial home in the presence of his children sow a seed of infidelity that when those children grows up they will never depart from it.
You’re right too because all you said are also contributing factors to infidelity. However, it’s always advisable for couples to work on their marriages for a healthier relationships and maybe seek a professional help if they can’t do it by themselves instead of looking elsewhere.Thank you so much for your contributions!. It’s well appreciated.
Very nice compilations, nice work man.
Thank you SO much for taking the time to read it. I’m glad you liked you.
Interesting read. I like the fact that you sought the opinion of many men. It gives a nice touch.
Just discovered your blog, btw. Currently binge reading every writeup. It’s awesome!
I’m SO GLAD you found me😃
Thank you for your wonderful and inspiring comments. I’m glad you like the blog.