Most Awkward Asked Questions that Military Spouses are Tired of Hearing.

There are several ridiculous questions that military spouses are damn tired of hearing. Believe me, I’ve been asked the most ridiculous questions you can ever think of.

I wonder why people ask questions far beyond their immediate practical concerns.

Some of such questions are listed below.

Has he ever killed someone?

I remember asking my soldier this question when we first met…lol. Guess what?

He smiled and poured himself more wine. I always wonder what the interest is about people wanting to know if a soldier has ever killed someone or not, but I guess it’s just the curiosity in us all.

The truth is, it goes with the job description (they kill by profession). And they do it in the line of duty because when the chips are down, It’s either you kill or get killed.

Does he want to go to war?

My answer has always been “NO” because nobody would pray for war. It is the worst thing that could happen to any nation. No one is prepared for that except for soldiers. It’s their job and service to fight wars. That’s where training, skills, and experience kick in, so it’s an actual reality for most military personnel. Therefore, if it happens, he has to do his job.

What if he’s sent to war?

What a question!

We don’t really talk about it because it’s not a good topic. Maybe, I will tell him to drop his uniform and dash, and I’m not kidding…lol.

Anyway, I believe they’ve been trained and made ready for that. However, it’s not something every soldier’s wife wishes or looks forward to. They are trained to be physically and mentally prepared for it. When it comes, he has to do his job, and on my part, I keep praying for God to keep him safe. I will also pray for his colleagues to be safe and in the right mind frame because I wouldn’t want someone psychologically unstable fighting beside my man.

Let me also add that “Soldiers believe they will survive the war.” They fight where they are told and believe they will win the fight.

What if he dies?

Seriously???

Death is inevitable irrespective of being a soldier or not. Though we always pray for God’s protection, we should also plan and prepare for the inevitable.

Is he scared of death?

Everybody is afraid of death. It’s natural. It’s the only thing that matters. Soldiers are human beings too, so I bet they are too. I think they always try to hide their emotions regarding fear, and it’s not cowardice.

The point is, there’s always a super strength that comes from their hearts that makes them able to cope with and overcome fears.

How do you stand being away from him for so long?                It seems you’re basically single, right?

I never thought I would have so much alone time or parent alone in marriage.

When deployments, training, and courses roll, the military has different plans for your relationships. Yeah, yeah…In most cases, the military spouse has to be the one in charge of the home front for a period ranging from days to weeks, months, or years.

The only consolation that keeps one going is knowing your soldier will be home someday, which you would always look forward to. You would once again be in each other’s arms! Imagine the kisses, hugs, cheers, and I missed ya talks. That feeling is what “AMAZING” means…lol.

And, NO, I’m basically not single because I’ve got a fantastic husband out there doing selfless service for his country. Being the spouse of a service member has inspired me to take a hard look at my weaknesses and change a little. If given the choice to choose all over again, I wouldn’t change a thing.

Is it hard to be faithful?

“NO,” BECAUSE IT’S NOT HARD TO KEEP MY LEGS SHUT! ( I would rather not preach love and commitment ). I always have a straight answer to this question.

Will he be faithful out there?

The job makes the soldiers be apart from their partners for a considerable period. Still, they can overcome all the temptations and trials when there’s love, understanding, and commitment.

Listen, guys, so long as your partner treats you right and doesn’t give you any reason to doubt, dismiss that ridiculous thought, and don’t seek out irrelevant reasons. It would only cause you pain.

Do you miss him?

Of course, I do miss his presence most times, but I bet you we always talk and see each other through video calls, which makes the loneliness disappear in a moment ( I dress and make up for video dates)…lol.Hmmm…this will make someone smile somewhere.

Missing him reminds me how much he’s worth it. I love him, and he’s worth the distance, and  I know that one day we’ll be together again, and distance will be a thing of the past.

Don’t you miss your family and friends?

Honestly, I might be too caught up with so many things that I would forget them (my family will kill me for this), but reality always hits then you would realize that you haven’t reached out or thought of them for a while.

There isn’t a way you wouldn’t miss your family and friends, but you would always make new friends in the military cycle who often may replace your friends and become a kind of family to you.

Are you guys going to come home for Christmas?

I get this one a lot from my mom and mom-in-law.

We’ve always wished for it, but I always have it at the back of my mind that there could be last-minute changes, as you could even be on the way home for Christmas or just arriving, and your soldier would be told that duty calls.

In that situation, you would be caught between staying to continue the holiday or returning with your soldier. Going back with my soldier has always been my best bet, as the kids can catch their fun but what about me?

Do you get to choose where you get stationed?

I would have loved that so I could choose to go to some states and countries we’ve never been to yet..lol.

What if you get stationed at a remote location?

I would smile, take it that it’s part of what obtains and try to make the best out of it, as I bet you I’ve experienced many such remote locations during my soldier’s career in the army.

I must confess that sometimes it sucks, but sometimes it’s pretty AMAZING!

Why did you choose to live like this?

Because I love my soldier, and I have one of the greatest loves in the world.

My man knows the true meaning of HONOUR, COURAGE, and COMMITMENT to the military and ME. That’s what makes everything worth it!

This lifestyle has made me a better woman. I wouldn’t change that for anything. I’m also serving my country in a way. I guess I’m right…right…right???.