Military marriages are not absolutely perfect, what marriage is???

I know military marriages can be tough and unfair….it can add an extra level of pressure to any relationship. If you’re married to a service member, you’ll agree with me that there’s so much more military life can throw at you. It can sometimes be frustrating and heartbreaking but it can also be quite amazing.

Ways to Keep the Fire Burning before it’s Too Late.

Put Yourself in Your Spouse’s Combat Boots and Have the Ability to Compromise

This is always a wise thing to do!

Compromise is never defeat!

We all know that the military is the “other wife” who gets most of the damn attention and that’s a little bit irritating especially when you think of things she has taken from you.

But then…..

You also know how much your spouse likes being a soldier.

And…

You love this person…you really do SO try to understand the difference in duty and your spouse’s love for you and view things from their perspective.

You genuinely can do this!

Trust Your Spouse and Don’t Get Jealous

You definitely have to trust your spouse or everything will surely fall apart.

Truth is…

Your spouse will always be gone so don’t let it bother you. Don’t let those silly whispering spirits whisper negative things to you. Talk things out if something doesn’t seem right and focus on what you need to focus on.

Remember…

They are married to you and will always come home to you as soon as it is possible to do so.

Don’t Compare

Never compare yourself to other spouses or your spouse to your spouse’s friend (you never can tell what happens behind closed doors).

Keep loving the person you married because marriage is a commitment to keep making that choice to love even when it gets hard because you know it can also get amazing…Pretty Amazing!!

Therefore…

Always remember that your partner is still the same person that once knocked you off your feet.

SO…

Always remind yourself of those qualities that made him so charming and totally hot!

Change your Sex Life

Marriage is a work – in – progress and sex is like an art that needs to be done well to be effective.

So…

Roll up your sleeves and go for the real adventure.

Try something new and spicy, perhaps new positions, places, and a little “dirty talk” can do the magic. This can be really powerful and mind-blowing. It can even build up your marriage.

Hey…

Why do I feel a lot of people know this but are shy to do it?

You don’t have to feel shy about it else, you’ll be a mood killer.

This is your spouse so you should feel comfortable getting things “hot and heavy“. And lest I forget, It doesn’t have to be in the bedroom and on the bed always or you’ll have a boring sex life.

Therefore…

Giddy up, reawaken that hotness, get the thrill back, and be a “PRO“ in bed…LOL

Good Communication

No romantic relationship can flourish without effective communication between the couple.

When you have deep conversations with your spouse, you’ll learn more about or more from your spouse, trust each other more and avoid misunderstandings.

Therefore…

Talk even when you don’t want to talk. Keep the lines open and ensure you talk and listen to one another. It will strengthen your relationship.

However…

The way you talk or respond to each other can either build up or tear down your marriage. Never forget that.

Don’t bear grudges and talk things out when there are misunderstandings because there’s always some sort. SO, whenever there is, talk but never resort to name-calling because it will only get messy.

Learn Your Spouse’s Love Language and Live Every Day Like your Service member Leaves the Next Day

Speak their love language so they will always think you care…hahaha. Love languages are like special buttons ( my friend calls it mugu buttons) that whenever you press, you can’t imagine what your spouse would do for you which proves that though the military has your service member, you would always have his heart!

Don’t forget to kiss often, give each other hugs and say “I Love You”… Always!! It will remind you of the early days and show you’re still in it with them… Think about that.

Remember to count your blessings always and be thankful for the great things that are true about your life.

I say this because, in all these years of being together with my partner, I’ve never seen a military spouse that wants out no matter how hard it gets.

And, Hey…

Always pray, plan for the best, prepare for the worst, and live life one day at a time. That’s how I pull through.

Once you find ways to do all these, military life will seem a lot more doable and quite interesting.

Keep flourishing and thanks for stopping by.

CHEERS.